5 Ways to Use a Dildo (That Aren’t Penetration)

Primarily intended as toys for penetrative vaginal or anal play, you can use dildos in so many other ways! Whether using a dildo with a partner or for solo play, consider less conventional ways you can use a dildo as a fun and useful tool.

While not an exhaustive list, check out five suggestions other than for vaginal or anal penetration.

Use a Dildo for Strap-on Blowjobs

Strap-on blow jobs offer a really fun way to use dildos in partnered play. One partner wears a dildo in a harness and another performs oral sex on them. While this way may involve less physical gratification than penetration, they produce really hot sounds and visuals. Strap-on blowjobs can also feature as an element of fantasy or role-play sex. For some people, experiencing sex in this way feels meaningful in terms of their gender. But strap-on  blowjobs as an act aren’t inherently linked to any gender or sexuality.

When choosing a dildo for strap-on blowjobs, softer and less textured dildos tend to feel more comfortable.

Use a Glass Dildo for Temperature Play

Dildos made of glass have become popular for penetrative play because the firm material feels excellent for putting pressure on the prostate or g-spot. Also, the smooth surface of glass makes for easy insertion. However, their use in temperature plays allows for another feature of glass toys (and one usable in play without penetration). Temperature play refers to experiencing heat or cold sensations during sex or foreplay. The way you can play varies from vanilla to kinky. Because glass dildos can be warmed up or cooled down, they work very well for this kind of sexy fun. Although, remember to test the temperature of your toy on your forearm before using it on your partner.

Try sticking your dildo in the freezer or putting it into a bowl of warm water, then using it to massage your partner’s body. Adding a blindfold to the mix helps make these sensations feel more intense!

Grind Against a Heavily Textured Dildo

While primarily intended for internal stimulation, you can use the texture on dildos in other ways!  Grinding or humping, a common masturbation technique doesn’t have to be limited to household objects like pillows. Heavily textured dildos can also stimulate the clitoris and vulva. Depending on your preferred positioning, this may involve squatting over and grinding against a dildo, lying on your back and rubbing a dildo over your vulva, or something entirely different.

Some people prefer firmer toys for grinding, while others prefer more pliable textures. What you choose comes down to a matter of personal preference.

Turn a Dildo into an External Vibrator

Commonly used during partnered penis-in-vagina sex, vibrating cock rings help reduce blood flow out of the wearer’s penis, with the vibrations also stimulating the receptive partner. However, you can use vibrating cock rings in other ways.  Vibrating cock rings placed on dildos turn them into vibrating dildos! Of course, you may use your dildo for penetrative play. But you and/or a partner can use it externally on both a vulva and a penis, as well as around the perineum and external anus.

Wear A Dildo While Being Penetrated

For those who enjoy wearing dildos in strap-on harnesses for gender affirmation reasons, wearing a strap-on harness while being penetrated provides a really enjoyable experience. Even for those who choose not to wear strap-ons for gender affirmation related-reasons, a dildo may heighten role-play sex or simply introduce exciting and hot visuals to partnered sex. While not every strap-on harness will allow the wearer to experience penetration, ‘jockstrap’ style harnesses generally leave the anus accessible and free to play with.